The early suffragettes were booed off the stage, mocked, assaulted and imprisoned. In Colchester a mob smashed the windows of the hotel where Josephine Butler (1828-1906) was staying, and stones were hurled into Her room. They threatened to burn the place down unless Mrs. Butler was delivered to them. She fled through a back window and hid inside an unused warehouse, filled with empty bottles and broken glass: “I stood there in the darkness and alone, hearing some of the violent men tramping past.” These Women risked their lives and fought an impossible battle. And yet they won. Against all odds. They were truly courageous and I greatly admire them. Femdom today is caught in the gigantic fishing nets of the porn industry. It’s a million dollar business that attracts all kinds of people with all kinds of motives: some true, some false, some unscrupulous. Finding a way out of this slimy mess is a monumental challenge. I hope and pray that our Women today, like their ancestors, have the strength, courage and determination to rise to the challenge and lead us towards a better future. A Femdom future.
According to some authors Female Domination is a loving relationship between a submissive man and a dominant Wife. To others it’s not necessarily a loving relationship, nor is it – they say – restricted to the ancient old concept of an one-on-one partnership. A third group disagrees altogether and claims that Female Domination is a male fantasy to which Women are happy to oblige – for a certain price. Discipline & Punishment are equally confusing: some say these are essential building blocks of Female Domination, others dismiss it as pure nonsense. I could write a similar paragraph on Supremacy, Superiority, Authority and Matriarchy. So we think we speak the same language, but we don’t. Does it matter, you say? Yes, I honestly think it does. If we truly believe that Women should be in charge and if we seriously want to discuss the future of Female Domination (whatever it means), then at least let us get the vocabulary right. We should be on the same page by now, but we’re not even in the same book yet.